Your first message is your only chance to make a good first impression. In fact, a lot of the time its your only chance to make an impression. Most women who don’t like your opening message will simply never respond. This can make it tough for you to know what you’re doing wrong. All you’re doing is getting a whole lot of nothing in response to putting yourself out there. If you get radio silence more often than not when you’re trying to start conversations with the sexy women you see online, you could be making a very common mistake with online messaging. Here are some things that women hate in their messages so that you can know what to avoid.
Even if you’re the most interesting man in the world you’re still going to get women who just never message you back. You’re hot, you’re available, and you’re into everything that she’s into but she’s never going to get back to you and that’s okay. There are other fish in the sea. Just make sure that you’re actually presenting yourself as the interesting guy you are. “Hi, what’s up?” is not a good opening message. You don’t want to leave your introduction to a single sentence message. If it doesn’t grab her attention there’s a good chance that you’re not going to hear back from her. Plus, it just doesn’t put your best foot forward. In real life you can open up with a greeting because she’s right there and you can follow up quickly. Online, just saying “hi” puts all the pressure on her to respond. Instead, try to pad out your response with a greeting, an observation about her profile, and a question that clarifies it.
It’s kind of amazing that guys really think that this will work, but… Some men open up with lines like “I think a sophisticated woman like you would enjoy the finer things in life, like my ten inch dick.” This is, of course, one of the more mild examples. Women don’t want to open messages and get really intense offers of things to do with them. While some men obvious do this just to be shocking, some actually think that detailing oral is going to get them dates. Women don’t like men who are that aggressive online. She doesn’t want to have to see that.
An Invitation to Meet Up
Whoa there, buddy. You have to know her at least a little before you can ask her out. Women’s number one fear when it comes to online dating is that their date is going to murder them. That’s right, it’s that if she goes to dinner with you you might actually kill her. This is doubly true if you’re just looking to hookup. Unless it says in her profile that she wants to hookup TONIGHT, you shouldn’t open with an address where she can find your dick. Save that for the second message and keep the romance alive.