Not everyone is ready to jump from online to real life in any situation, let alone for a fling. The flings that we go through in real life can be really up and down, involving drama and emotions that not everyone is ready to deal with. That’s fine, go for the modern fling. Keeping everything online isn’t bad at all, but the question is does it really work if you do that? Let’s look at some things to see if cyber flings really can work.
What is “Work”?
The definition of working will be different for everyone. When you think of a fling you’re thinking of a hot woman who wants to have sex with you. The length of the fling is up for debate. Theoretically it will be short lived, but again that could be a few weeks or it could be twice. Figure out what you want from the fling and then go from there.
Does She Want a Fling?
The women that you meet online tend to want to be long term things. To find out if they’re down for some casual flirting and cybersex then ask her. It’s easy to blow off relationships that go wrong online since you literally would never have to talk to them again, but you’ll feel better knowing that she’s down for whatever you’re down for. Also, remember that flings are vague, so ask what she thinks of them as well.
Keeping It Sexual
Cyber flings keep us happy because we get attention and cybersex. Those are the only two things that are required from this. But the way to keep it sexual without having anyone make this into a real relationship is to stop it from the beginning. Having ground rules helps with that. Never exchange phone numbers with her. That only makes it more personal since she’d be able to contact you in real life. When you are online with her, use fake names. Tell her what you want to be called and then ask what name you’d like her to use in return. She can pick whatever she wants, and even if it is a real name you won’t be aware of that. This keeps a certain amount of anonymity about everything. If you can stick to these basic rules then you’ll be far more likely to keep everything sexual, thus keeping it a casual fling.
Breaking It Off
You have to be prepared to ultimately end this. More often than not, it’s the guys who have to break it off with the ladies, but if you’re the one getting too involved then be ready for the day to come that ends it. Breaking off a cyber fling doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You shouldn’t suddenly stop coming online; that only leaves an empty feeling and sad thoughts. Neither of you should want it to end in a bad way, it’s just that once you’ve lived out your fantasy you say thanks and goodbye. These are the only ways to make a cyber fling work.