A lot of men fantasize about the “no date” hookups. You meet online, you chat a little, and she invites you over. You pick up a six pack of your favorite beer and meet at her place. You guys don’t watch a movie first and you don’t cuddle; you just crack a beer, take a swig, and get down and dirty. When you’re thirsty, you fuel up on beer, and when you’re done having sex you’re done being at her house. You head back to your place and the whole thing only took a couple of hours. Not as many guys try to make their fantasy a reality, however. There are some perks and downsides to this approach, so think it through before helping it to leave the fantasy zone.
Pro: You Don’t Have to Pretend to Be into Them
No date hookups battle the idea that you have to connect with someone on any level but the physical. Sure, in a perfect world you would only have chemistry with people you want to be in a long term relationship with. That’s not how it works. Sometimes you and that woman would hate each other on a date, but physically you know just what each other needs. No date hookups are more honest: this is just about the sex.
Con: It’s Harder to Screen out People
Someone might seem pretty chill when you’re seeing if they’re down for a late night booty call, but how well do you really know them? Spoiler: not very well at all. It’s a lot harder for you to tell if she’s going to be creepy or awkward if all you’re sharing is your schedule and then meeting up with sex on the brain. For all you know she’s trying to get a man to father a child with her before it is too late. Make sure that you watch for any red flags when you’re messaging someone about a hookup because it’s all the warning you’ll get.
Pro: They Don’t Take as Much Time
If you’re a busy guy with a tight schedule you know that date time is always first on the chopping block. Maye you’re okay with this because you’re not really looking to be in a relationship right now, but it can suck if all you ever have is time for a quickie. Maybe you’re devoted to your career and now isn’t the time for you to be getting involved with anyone. That’s a good cause, but it can still suck to really want that connection and simply not be able to get it. When you find yourself craving contact, a no date hookup can make you relaxed and more able to focus on work without having to carve out an entire evening to spend wining and dining her.
Con: Not Always Socially Acceptable
It’s fun to talk about dates, but a lot of men get uncomfortable if you bring up casually trolling the internet for sex. If you want to be able to brag about your exploits, pretend that you met her through mutual friends.